In this honest and practical conversation, Ben and Roane unpack one of the most misused and misunderstood words in Christian recovery: grace. What does grace actually look like after betrayal? Why can’t it be rushed, demanded, or faked? And how does real relational grace — not spiritual bypass — actually help rebuild a marriage in crisis? They explore shame, ownership, community, the order of grace, and why healing requires connection—not platitudes.
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00:30 – Welcome to Episode 61: Why We Keep Talking
02:56 – The Christian Word We Keep Misusing
05:43 – Grace in Crisis: The Reality After Betrayal
07:36 – Infidelity, Not an “Affair”: Naming the Truth
09:53 – When Both Partners Need Grace
12:16 – Stabilizing Before You Heal
14:44 – Redefining Grace Before Marriage Even Starts
16:56 – Roane’s Story: From Head Knowledge to Heart Knowledge
19:22 – Why Grace Has to Be Experienced, Not Learned
22:08 – Ad Break
23:31 – Back From the Break
23:28 – Intellectual Grace vs. Relational Grace
24:45 – Grace Requires Rebuilding Connection
27:10 – Why Men Need Other Men First
28:48 – Marriage Isn’t Disney: Why No One “Acts Right”
31:11 – Emotional Regulation & Repair Work
33:52 – The True Order of Grace
36:28 – Helper Types and Blind Spots
39:51 – Grace for All Couples—Not Just Those in Crisis
42:10 – Stop Making Your Spouse Your Savior
43:59 – Leadership Through Overflow, Not Control
45:47 – Quit the Sandbox Fight: Somebody Go First
48:18 – The Unicorn Marriage & Why It’s Rare